20 tips you can learn from Scandinavian parents

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What would it feel like if your child listened? Like, actually did what you said the first time?

Great, right?

Honestly, parenting is hard work for ANY mom. But some of these Scandinavian parenting practices hold the key to a more connected and happy family life. At the heart of it are some simple routines and a return to nature.

Read next: Curious about Nordic parenting? Here’s what you need to know and discover the many benefits.

Scandinavian parenting tips

1. Play outside every day

Fresh air is paramount to Scandinavians so our kids play outdoors almost every day, even if it’s cold or rainy. We usually go to parks or forests, where the kids play with found objects rather than commercial toys.

Even short amounts of outdoor time can be precious. A few hours a week of regular outdoor time can be enough to benefit your child.

Related: How to encourage independent play

2. Model eco-consciousness

Sustainability is part of everyday life in Scandinavia; so much that we don’t even think about it. We believe it’s important to pass down skills on how to love and care for the environment to our children.

We spend more time in nature and teach our kids how to reduce, reuse and recycle – the three Rs. It’s about making it a habit and teaching your children how to do it.

3. Limit screen time

Scandi parents allow screen time, but in moderation. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, children’s screen use strengthens learning capability and children are exposed to new ideas and knowledge. BUT too much time with the iPad or phone also increases the risk of affecting children’s sleep and concentration negatively.

So, we allow screen time and encourage the kids to spend the rest of the time playing.

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4. Trust your children

Nordic parenting doesn’t give into fear and let children play outside partially unsupervised. You should obviously only do this if you live in a safe country or community. But I still encourage you to trust your children and gradually give them more unsupervised playtime, both inside and outside.

Pro tip: Try to keep phrases like: “be careful” to a limit.

5. Keep schedules simple

Nordic kids have simple schedules and more time to play outside. Try to avoid packed schedules with extracurricular activities.

6. Have fun and play with your kids

The other day, I saw a mom jumping in puddles with her toddler. They had so much fun, and Theo & I couldn’t help but smile. Try to play and have fun with your kids – play hide and seek, have water fights in the backyard, jump in mud.

It’s quite fun.

7. Play first, school second

Nordic kids tend to spend their earliest years developing imagination and social skills and therefor they don’t start school until they’re six. Enjoying childhood and playing are all kids (0-6 years old) have to do.

We believe that a long childhood is a happy childhood.

8. No to spanking

Physical punishment is literally banned as a form of punishment for kids in Scandinavia. Research shows that this isn’t a good way for kids to learn and can have a negative impact on the child. We teach through positive reinforcement instead.

9. Embrace the wild in the child

Kids are naturally curious. And Nordic parents embrace this by giving them more freedom when they play. Falling down is not a bad thing, because it teaches the child about limits – not to run so fast or look where they’re going.

10. No such thing as bad weather

In Scandinavia, we have a saying: “There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing.”

While we don’t send kids outside every day in any kind of weather, we just don’t see the weather as an obstacle for outdoor play. Today, we went to the park, it was 2 degrees C and raining, but Theo had so much fun.

Scandinavian parenting tips

11. Focus on the positive

Scandinavian parenting has a focus on positive elements of a negative situation. For instance, if a child isn’t picked for soccer at school, we would first acknowledge his feelings and then say: “It’ll be better next time” or “let’s make a plan for how to get picked next time”.

We do this to make it a learning opportunity for the kids instead of something shameful.

12. Freedom fosters responsibility

Freedom is paramount in Nordic life. We encourage our kids to play independently, climb in trees, help in the kitchen, because it helps them learn how to feel their own limits and learn how to judge risks.

Research shows that it makes children learn to take care of themselves.

13. Get plenty of fresh air

Scandi kids are outside playing every day in daycare and Kindergarten, all year. Aside from the exercise and better health, research shows that there are SO many benefits of fresh air.

14. Daycare

Most kids in Denmark, Sweden, Norway and Finland start daycare at 1 year old.

15. Respect goes both ways

Nordic parents are firm, but also responsive, expecting appropriate behavior from the children according to their age. When their children go through difficult and stubborn stages, the parents support them by being patient and guiding. They believe that respect goes both ways.

16. Clean is good, but don’t go overboard

Scandinavians have clean, but not over-sanitized homes (and kids). This, as a result, means that our kids have less allergies.

17. Get into hygge

Family hygge is a BIG deal in Scandinavia.

If you’re not already making time for it, you should start now! Hygge is a cornerstone in Scandinavian parenting and it strengthens the family ties and makes your home calm and happier.

Read next: 10 great ways to hygge as a family and discover ways to bond and connect with your children.

18. Messy play is good

Scandinavian parenting embraces muddy playtime. In fact, it’s considered an essential part of a good childhood to get dirty, dig for earthworms in the dirt and jump in puddles.

Why?

Because it’s fun. And when kids have fun, they’re happy.

19. Avoid labeling kids

Generally, Scandinavian parents don’t label their kids. By labelling, I mean boxing a child into a set of personality traits such as “He’s wild” or “She’s a bad eater”.

When we experience negative behavior, we separate the child from the action. There’s a big difference between saying: “You can’t hit. Hitting hurts your little sister” and “You’re a BAD child. Shame on you.”

20. Encourage independent play

The benefits of independent play are many and plentiful! We all know that play is important, but letting your child play on its own (without you interfering) is even better, and that’s what Scandi parents do.

Independent play not only fosters creativity and gives parents a break, it can also help develop problem-solving skills.

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About the Author: Mama Miri

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I’m a mama of two boys, and I'll help you be the mom you want to be. Parenting is hard enough without all the guilt. So let’s stop trying to be perfect moms and just be real ones.

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